As Valentine’s Day approaches, we thought we’d share 5 Steps to Ease Conflict & Reconnect this Valentines, from Stacey Cali, M.A., Resident in Counseling:
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Do “Small Things Often”: Don’t wait for “Date Night”. Use more eye contact, really listen and show genuine curiosity daily.
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Really Talk: Weave more meaningful topics into your conversations. Get ideas from “8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by married Psychologists John and Julie Gottman & “How to Know a Person” by David Brooks.
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Learn Your “Love Languages”: It’s fun for both of you! https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language.
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“Mend & End”: Practice “Mending” — loving humor, finding common ground, really hearing each other and showing appreciation — now, so when conflict arises, it’s less painful. At an impasse? Take a break & check in later.
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“What’s Going Well”: Reflect each day on “What’s working?”
Stacey Cali, M.A., Resident in Counseling, currently has openings for new clients. Book a free 20-minute therapy consult today: https://www.sarahmoorelpc.com/contact